Counsellor Torbay | Torquay

You're going to think I'm a really terrible person...

You're going to think I'm terrible for what I'm about to say...... You're going to think I'm stupid.... You're going to think I'm a really bad person, but...... You're going to look at me in a different way when I tell you this... You'll think bad of me.... I hear these shame-based phrases all the time in the therapy room. They're thoughts and feelings people have which they've been programmed to believe from early childhood make them a bad person. BUT, being able to say them to me can bring an enormous amount of relief for my clients - why? Because I'm 100% not judging them. Let me explain. There is nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing a person could tell me in therapy that would bring m

10 Relationship Red Flags of Abuse

Many people experience unhealthy toxic relationships, but sometimes we don't realise these relationships are actually a form of damaging abuse. Watch this short video for a better insight into whether your relationship is abusive.

7 signs of Emotional Intelligence

Teaching Emotional Intelligence and helping my clients become self-regulating and autonomous is an integral part of my practice as a Counsellor. Emotional Intelligence involves Self-awareness – the ability to read one's emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide decisions; Self-management – controlling one's emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances; Social awareness – the ability to sense, understand, and react to other people's emotions while comprehending social networks; and Relationship management – the ability to inspire, influence, and develop others while managing conflict. Most of it is not something you're born with, it's something you